I like being straightforward and say what I think. I admire those who do the same. However this is not easy. I am constantly working to find the balance which assertiveness ensures.
One of my main beliefs is that you can tell what type of person one is and how successful they are from they way one communicates and expresses oneself.
Words have an immense power. They shape our image of the world, influence our mood, they can hurt and manipulate, but can also win hearts and open doors.
Say it out loud, don’t just think it. Measure your words so that they serve your plans, but don’t break any bonds.
How many times have you missed the opportunity to say some kind words ore give a compliment? Moreover, how many times did you say something in anger and then wish you could take it back?
All human beings wish to be happy. Whatever form happiness takes for them, they have this one thing in common. Once you acknowledge this, your thoughts are open for a deeper understanding of the world. Sounds like a bit too much? Maybe, but there are too many times when inferiority or superiority complexes stand in the way of an open and successful communication.
There are countless rules for communicating, but here are the ones which I have found most effective and use most often:
⁃ see yourself as the peer of the person you are talking to (not superior, not inferior either).
⁃ speak respectfully (to the other and to yourself as well) and show understanding.
⁃ if you start getting aggravated/emotional and you know this will affect your discourse, take a deep breath or take a break.
⁃ avoid generalizations (like “you never do this or that”) as they are most likely untrue.
To your fruitful conversations!
Note on the picture: it is of a drawing I made, called “Freestyle in Watercolor”